I am the Mum you see out and about.
The Mum who looks young.
The Mum who has three children.
The Mum who looks like she has no control over her boys. The Boys who you may hear before you see, the boys who cant keep still. The boys who talk at a high volume.
The Mum you judge.
The one who you stop and stare at, and feel the need to take a moment out of your day to make a comment on how i “need to control my children” or how “disgusting their behaviour is” or “is there any need for the level of noise they produce”.
If my Boys had a physical disability, would you be more understanding? Would you give me a sympathetic look, and walk on by?
Yes you would. How do i know that?
Because when Alfie was in a Maclaren Major pram having a meltdown. I didnt get judgemental stares and comments.
When Junior has his ear defenders on, and is stood twiddling his twiddle toy. I dont get as many judgemental stares and comments.
Can you not see that during a meltdown in the middle of a Supermarket, when im on the verge of tears, getting punched, kicked and swore at by my Son, that maybe he cant deal with the situation. Hes not just a naughty child. Your stares and comments dont help. Yes its human nature to stare, but please dont stop and stare. Please keep your comments to yourself.
You may think im not disaplining my children.
Truth is, during a meltdown. I cant reason with them. During a meltdown theres not much i can do, but try and remove them from the situation, reassure them and wait for it to pass. My Boys are getting big now at ages 10 and 8 its getting harder and harder to remove them from situations. Please be patient. Please dont judge. Please just walk on by.
Truth is when you do judge, it has a massive impact on me. Yes me. The boys dont care what you think. Not in a bad way. They just dont care. I do care. Your not only critising me as a person and a Mum. Your critising my children. You are judging them. That is what i find hard. Your making an impression of my children, before you know them.
Most of all.
I am the Mum who will defend her children. I am the Mum who is learning not to react to your comments, because its all due to ignorance. Lack of knowledge.
I am the Mum who loves her children no matter what………